This one could take a team of psyhchologists years to answer. Maybe you could help in a much shorter time-span. This is an email that was in our in-box this morning. Can you help her out?
Dear Brad, Peter and Moya,
My gal pals and I have a motto about men: Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen. Ok, so we're not mean exactly, but guys do seem to love the challenge of the hunt, and if we ladies give in too easily, too soon, they're turned off. Why is this so? And why do men lose interest once they "win" the game?
Signed,
The Hunted?
5 comments:
I'm here to say that men arent the only ones to have that affect, or rather, affliction.
I'm living proof that women are like that too.
Me? I find a guy, and.. well... I actually TRY to find something remotely attractive about them, and when I do, watch out! I do whatever I can to have them!
Then, when I do, the relationship is well, just dead.
There's nothing left of it, so I break it off.
And then check one off my list!! LOL
Anyhow, don't just think men go through that, because women do too!
Once you've dated a handful of men you should have your list of likes and dislikes then when your ready to settle down with 1 guy be sure that his qualities match up with your list of qualities you want.
Ladies...I don't think we'll ever figure it out. I've all but given up on the "dating scene" I've been single for 4 years, 40ish, attractive and consider myself a great catch. I think it's all very intimidating to men on the "hunt". Once the chase is over and they realize that the "prey" is too hot to handle they simply can not keep up their domineer and move on.
I think the problem is, you just haven't met your ONE AND ONLY yet .. and he sure is not easy to find, especially considering how many guys are shy of commitment.
If the TRUE love finds you, you both will know it .. BEFORE you even go to bed.
Anything else that happens in between .. not worth worrying about it. Relax, enjoy the moment ... and BE YOURSELF!!! :)
Are these men/"hunters" ones that you find at a bar at 2 a.m. on a Saturday? If so, they aren't guys that are typically looking for a long term relationship. Also, what does "so we're not mean exactly" mean - I'm sorry, but if you're mean in any way to a man at the beginning of a relationship they probably figure you're not looking for a long term relationship either. Who's mean to someone and then expects it to last? No one wants the "bitchy girlfriend" who complains and is mean all the time, including in front of a guy's friends.
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