Monday, August 22, 2011

My Sister Says I Have to Lose Weight or I Can't Be in Her Wedding:

Charlene sent us this letter...in she says:

My sister and I have always been polar opposites.

She's always been skinny, good-looking, and popular . . . while I'm a lot curvier and not as obviously pretty as she is.

Anyway, my sister is getting married next year, and she told me I have to lose 15 pounds or I won't be in the wedding. I'm a size six, and I never thought of myself as chubby.

All the bridesmaids are thin and pretty like she is, and she said she wants her bridal party to look "uniform."

She's my sister . . . shouldn't I be in her wedding regardless of how I look? Do other women intentionally choose small, pretty women to be their bridesmaids?

Just thought I would vent!
Charlene

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

I could just go on forever about what I think of your sisters behaviour, Who just by that request seems like a spoiled, immature, too hung up on herself little princess!!....but family is family and we accept them. I am a size 6/7 and considered petite, anything under that is too scronny...why would you or your sister ever want to risk your health. OMG, Her request blows my mind.

Anonymous said...

While your wedding is "your" big day and all about you, isn't the whole purpose of a wedding to share your special day with the ones you love the most. My maid of honour was a plus size and one of my brides maids was 4 months pregnant (this was my sister). I couldn't have been happier. These were some of the people I loved most. Obviously it is your call as to what you should do. You will have to do what you feel comfortable with but I don't have nice words to describe your sister and I don't think I would do it. Good luck to you with whatever you choose.

Anonymous said...

Wow, just wow... I feel sorry for the groom if this is what the bride is focusing on. By the way, size 6 is NOT fat!!!

Love ya C100!
Vicki

Anonymous said...

Tell her that when you get married, she will have to gain 15 pounds to be in your wedding. Seriously, if she was a friend instead of a sister, I would tell you she is no friend. Many friends come and go, sisters are for life. She will regret her remarks sooner or later. For you my advice, you DO NOT have to lose 15 pounds not at the size you are. It is her loss not yours if you are not in her wedding party.

Anonymous said...

I think its terrible of your sister to insist that you lose weight to be in her bridal party. Size 6 isn't big by any means!!!

Anonymous said...

Well, as number 6 on the comment train I think we can see what the common thread is. Your sisters priorities are messed up. if appearances mean more to her than friends and family then she still has some growing up to do.
At my wedding all 3 off my girls had babies within the last 8 months and were all at their "biggest" because of it, but it was NEVER even a consideration to worry about their size. they were what made my wedding special and were the people that mattered most to me, and they all looked beautiful!
Stand your ground and hold your head up high, be proud of who you are and tell your sister that you want no part in participating in the wedding if she doesn't feel the same way.