Hey Breakfast Club,
The other day my 12-year-old daughter came home from school, and I noticed she was wearing foundation, blush, eye shadow and mascara. She said she bought the makeup at the drug store, and all the girls at her school wear it.
Is my 12-year-old daughter too young to be wearing makeup? At what age should girls start wearing makeup? Should I tell my daughter she needs to wait a few more years before she can wear makeup to school?
I am curious about what your listeners think.
Thanks,
Christy
5 comments:
Alice sent us this e-mail....
Hi Peter, Brad and Moya,
I have an almost 12 yr old and we are having the same issue. The deal we have is that she can practice with makeup at home but the face is clean before she leaves the house. She does say her friends are wearing it...but when I offered to call and discuss it with their moms she backed off.
This has been a disagreement with us since she was 9! I have told her when she is 13 she can start wearing lip gloss and we will build from there. I told when she was 9 that I never wore makeup until i was 19 ..she then turned to me and said mom dont you know 9 is the new 19. I told her when she got a job and bought the makeup herself she could then wear it.
Tracy sent us this e-mail...
Hi Breakfast club!!!
Here are my thoughts. If her daughter has begun wearing makeup on her own…now is the time for her mother to sit her down and teach her the difference between 'enhancing' our features and wearing makeup as a "mask".
Tastefully done with a light hand, makeup won't kill the young girl…if she's going to be sneaking out and wearing anyway - her Mom may as well teach her that 'less is more' and have large discussions around the fact that the 'little darling' went out on her own and bought make up when she knew she wasn't allowed.
It's a real fine line between our kids wanting to 'keep up with the jones' and doing what is right. Honestly - I don't think parents need to conceed all the time but our kids are growing up in a way tougher envioronment than we did and are judged way more than we used to be, which should not be the case in 2010 - but it is and we as parents have to find the best way through the mess for our kids…best we can.
Tracy
Raisin' up a 21 year old boy, 13 year old boy and an 11 year old little darlin' of my own ;)
My thoughts. She's the mother. My niece is 13 and is not allowed to wear make-up. No question about it. Now we have never heard or caught her wearing it, and I guess that she was taught that she's better than peer pressure, she clearly respects her mother & what her mother says goes. So to answer the question no. 12 is to young. I've always said (and I'm a mother of 2 boys) either you want them to be children or adults. You can't have it both ways. She is the mother when is going to start teaching about not giving in to peer pressure! When a bigger problem then make-up comes along...I guess. She's the mother, bottom line.
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My thoughts. She's the mother. My niece is 13 and is not allowed to wear make-up. No question about it. Now we have never heard or caught her wearing it, and I guess that she was taught that she's better than peer pressure, she clearly respects her mother & what her mother says goes. So to answer the question no. 12 is to young. I've always said (and I'm a mother of 2 boys) either you want them to be children or adults. You can't have it both ways. If you can't and don't nip it in the bud now, when are you going to say NOT to give into peer pressure? When something more seriously comes along. She needs to teach her NOW to have a mind of her own. Regardless....
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April sent us this letter...
Hi guys! My daughter is 11 and she wears a little bit of makeup to school. I don't see what the big deal is and its not going to hurt them at all. I don't think we should let them do whatever they want but pick your battles. One thing that always comes to my mind with hair and makeup is a few years ago we were at the IWK radiothon and Zoe was there with her bright pink hair and we met her and her Mom and her Mom said to me those are the little things and Zoe may not be here much longer and the next year she died. That always sticks with me when it comes to letting my daughter do certain things. I know we can't always dwell on the fact that they may not be here tomorrow but don't sweat the small stuff. Since then I have let her get some streaks in her hair and she does wear a little bit of makeup. She does have respect for me and I don't see any harm in letting her do it. I would't let her wear trashy clothes or anything but a little makeup, whats the big deal. Makeup is not going to turn them into something they shouldn't be. Just thought I would share my opinion.
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