This topic came up with the C100 Breakfast Club this morning. Can you be friends with your ex?
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I don't have an X yet. 30 years of sharing a life with my beautiful wife have been wonderful, with all the ups and downs....sharing the roller coaster ride of life...hanging on to each other in the downs and sharing the beauty of the ups. We have discussed being friends if we ever broke up... She says no but I say please...for conjagal vists a least.
Depends. I have had some Xs that I have remained friends with (although not as close as before the relationship), and others that I am very happy to have out of my life for good. I am married now so hopefully I won't have to worry about another X :) I guess my answer is depends.... Depends on how you break up and what your relationship was like in the first place.
I agree with Karen, you can be friendly but not friends. I think it's a must you get along when children are involved, regardless of their age(s). But I don't think it's necessary to go so far as to invite them for dinner. After all, they are your 'ex' for a reason.
I agree with Karen. With the passing of time, you can be friendly but not friends. I could never bring myself to trust an ex enough to be as open as you need to be in a true friendship. However I have to say that letting go of the anger is very therapeutic and allows you to get on with your life.
You can be friends with your ex, especially for the sake of the kids. However, when your ex hooks up with a new woman who can't handle this, and your ex is too much of a wimp to stand up to the new woman, then you can't be friends with your ex anymore. Because you're not "allowed". No bitterness here, though...
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I don't have an X yet. 30 years of sharing a life with my beautiful wife have been wonderful, with all the ups and downs....sharing the roller coaster ride of life...hanging on to each other in the downs and sharing the beauty of the ups.
We have discussed being friends if we ever broke up... She says no but I say please...for conjagal vists a least.
Yes, with boundaries. With children involved I believe it's prudent to be friendly at the very least.
YES U CAN . IF U WERE FRIENDS BEFORE HAND IT CAN STILL WORK OUT .
No! No! No! I will never be friends with my ex. He is satan pretending to be a man.
I think you should if kids are involved!!!
Depends. I have had some Xs that I have remained friends with (although not as close as before the relationship), and others that I am very happy to have out of my life for good. I am married now so hopefully I won't have to worry about another X :) I guess my answer is depends.... Depends on how you break up and what your relationship was like in the first place.
You can be friendly but not friends.
I can be friends with MY ex(s) however I canNOT be friends with HIS ex(s) - funny eh!
i guess it depends on where they land on the 1-10 psychopath level
I agree with Karen, you can be friendly but not friends. I think it's a must you get along when children are involved, regardless of their age(s). But I don't think it's necessary to go so far as to invite them for dinner. After all, they are your 'ex' for a reason.
I agree with Karen. With the passing of time, you can be friendly but not friends. I could never bring myself to trust an ex enough to be as open as you need to be in a true friendship. However I have to say that letting go of the anger is very therapeutic and allows you to get on with your life.
karen hit the nail on the head!!friendly but not friends works both ways, kids or no kids.this is especially true with outlaws(inlaws)as well.
alice
You can be friends with your ex, especially for the sake of the kids. However, when your ex hooks up with a new woman who can't handle this, and your ex is too much of a wimp to stand up to the new woman, then you can't be friends with your ex anymore. Because you're not "allowed". No bitterness here, though...
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