Dear Breakfast Club,
You guys have had some great advice in the past and I'm hoping you can help me with this.
This insanely hot guy asked me out on a date, and when it came time for us to go out . . . he asked me if *I* would drive . . . because he didn't have a driver's license.
--Even though I thought it was odd, I agreed to drive . . . and the two of us ended up having a great time.
--Here's the thing: I asked him why he didn't have his license . . . and he told me it was REVOKED . . . but he wouldn't explain why.
--Is this a giant red flag that I shouldn't date this guy? We had such a great time on our date. Should I still give him a chance?
--Dana
Okay C100 Listeners.....it's time to step up with some sage advice for Dana.
11 comments:
I say, give him a chance. He didn't try to keep it from you, he was open about it. Would it have made you feel better if he'd not said anything about it, just drove anyhow despite his revokation?
His license could have been revoked as a result of something (or a few somethings) that he did possibly even a few years ago. Perhaps he learned his lesson, and that's a guy who will now NEVER drink and drive or do whatever it is he did to lose it.
Everybody's made mistakes in life, some bigger than others. In the grand scheme of things, this one doesn't sound so horrific.
If the license revoked was a beginners license he maybe embaressed. If that is the case does she have other proof of the guy's age?
Here is an e-mail we received from Dorinda.....
Let that young gal know that lots of young men make mistakes. If we wrote off all the young testosterone filled bucks for a youthful mistake then the eligible pool of males may be shockingly limited.
As well, it is just a date....not a marriage. You have to kiss a lot of frogs right and a hot one is not overly painful to date. Just don't be stupid and walk away if the evidence becomes unacceptable.
I the guy's on a learner lic. and screwed up give him a chance. If it's park'n tickets I say give him a chance. Now if it's drinkn then driving or just not obaying the law that would give me a RED flag, think about it!. cheers Ron
I say let it go for now, until you see where the dating goes & get to know each other a little more. If things progress, who says he won't open up to you on his own & explain the situation to you? If things do progress & he doesn't bring it up again & you're still concerned....ask him about it.
Go for it & see where it goes I say!
I say its a red flag and maybe should dig a bit deeper into the why. There is a big difference between revoked because of a speeding ticket, and revoked because of my third DUI...
Find out the reason why before you do anything. My ex-husband didn't get his license til he was 30. I had to drive him around for 10 years.
Do whatever you want. It's your life, it's your choice. You can't ask advice on decision about your own life. It's for you to figure out.
He wasn't lying to you. He just didn't tell the whole story.
I would outright ask him the fess up as to why he doesn't have a license. You can't have any kind of relationship based on lies. It's up to you whether you accept why he's lost his license, there's a difference between speeding and maybe drug possession or drunk driving. If he refuses to let you know, he's either done something really bad, or he's just an idiot, either way get it out of him.
If could be a medical issue. If he has epilespy, he would be unable to drive.
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