Dear Breakfast Club,
I've heard other people get advice from C100 listeners and now I need some help.
My girlfriend and I have been dating for three months, and she's great. We hang out all the time, and I like her a lot.
But the other night, she got mad at me because I haven't changed my FACEBOOK STATUS.
It still says "single" on my page, and she wants it to either say nothing at all, or that I'm dating her.
Isn't three months a little too early to be officially dating someone on Facebook? How long should you be dating someone before you change your Facebook status?
Looking for a little good advice,
Earl
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9 comments:
So this situation seems a little immature, it sounds like they're a highschool couple. She shouldn't care what he has on his facebook, but if the guy really likes her and is only dating her then why not say it. or at least take the single off.
My boyfriend asked me out after a few dates by saying... "so I guess we can change our facebook status now"...(yes a little cheezy) but we've been together for almost two years.
I have heard a few comments on the radio and here's my opinion: when I met my fiance a year ago, when it came to facebook I changed my status right away. However, he didn't actually change his for about 3-4 months after we were dating. I think it all depends on the person and if they are sure the relationship is going to go. If you are both committed to the relationship, then it should be changed, and if it doesn't work out you can always change it back. There are so many "dating" sites on facebook that if you don't change it and leave yourself as single you are basically telling your girlfriend/boyfriend that you aren't serious and possibly still looking for a better "fish".
Susan just emailed us with this response.
I say don't change it Earl. If you have ever changed your status from in a relationship back to single everyone sees that as a post and asks questions. I would say he should hide his status before he puts that he is in a relationship. It is not fun announcing to everyone that you have broken up with someone. 3 months is not a long time in some relationships.
Susan B.
Unless your engaged or Married...your what? Single....so why is it so important.I tend to think they are very young and insecure. Oh yes and FaceBook isn't a dating site as someone else suggested.
So you've been dating her for three months, she is great, you hang out all the time, you like her a lot .... so, what is the problem with changing your status to "in relationship"? I don't see you being "single" if you have a girlfriend. If you are THAT shy of commitment, then I hope your girlfriend opens her eyes asap and leaves you being SINGLE!
Just to make my point clearer, I didn't say facebook was a dating site.....but that there are many dating type applications on there (meet new people and are you interested) to name a few. If you are on facebook and you are listing yourself as single when you aren't, it's misleading to others who may want to get to know you more. And my fiance and I met on facebook and I couldn't be happier.
Earl you said "My girlfriend and I have been dating for three months".
There's your answer "girlfriend" "dating". Yes change your status, take single out.
I think you answered your own question when you wrote "my girlfriend and I have been dating for three months." you need to change your status especially if it means that much to her!
i say just remove your status altogether until you are comfortable listing as "in a relationship". that way you aren't falsley claiming to be truly single, and you don't have to deal with all the questions if it is to sometime soon change from "in a relationship" back to single again...
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